I haven't written a post in a little over a year. And to be honest, I don't know where to begin. Or begin again. But what I do know is that it is time...way overdue time to write a post. So maybe I will start with this...
One day I woke up and decided to file for divorce. And well, that's nothing special. Clearly, lot's of people make the inner-talk statement, "Yea, this is exhausting" or the obligatory, "I've had enough" or my pick of the day, "This is that bullshit." Side note: "Hold Up" did another woman's diamond stud just drop from your collar?!?! "What a wicked way to treat the girl that loves you." Thank you, Beyonce for Lemonade. Her video album is visually metaphysical...helped me to process and move through my hurt and anger. And through the healing balm of music, not just Beyonce but other artist as well, I was able to actively experience "all things work for good." I'm grateful. I grew. And came to understand forgiveness - to remember the lesson yet walk forward in peace. But yea, filing for a divorce is not special. Yet what is special or rather a tilt my head to the left with an audible "hmm" kind of interesting is a statistic I read once - women overwhelmingly file for a divorce more than men. I wonder why lol. No, seriously...
WHY?
I believe the answer or at least one woman's personal perspective of the answer lies in the reality of peace. Hmm, what does peace have to do with why women overwhelmingly file for divorce? Well, it has to do with a woman's or this woman's life landscape post divorce. My landscape is level, grounded, and balanced in a way that superfluous mounds of disrespect and the monkey grass of lies would not and will not allow. And well, terra forming a healthy marriage is an ever-progressive work that many of us mortals lack the scientific wherewithal to endeavor. Translation - whether man or woman, we often lack the willingness to mine the mineral-elements called LOVE AND HONOR and may I add the vulnerability (read - "emotional maturity") that intimacy requires. Too, a good marriage allows for grace in the company of growth and both spouses, men as well as women no doubt, must be committed to this need.
Yet about experiencing a sense of peace...
I feel Light. I am Light. The chronic yet mysterious physical illness that I acquired while married has quite miraculously been cured i.e. heart palpitations, flu-like body aches and once-a-week migraines/tmj flares...poof, gone. And the depressive anxiety I continually experienced has engaged a slow fade from my world. My holistic health has improved dramatically. Yea, who knew that divorce is like sitting in a Lotus pose and going Vegan!
I could write a long piece about the studied why's and how's of why women file for divorce OR I can simply say this...
Some, not all, but some men absolutely and utterly suck. Period. But believe me when I tell you that good men do indeed abound. Live your best life and in the midst of thriving never cease to be GIVING AND RESPECTFUL to you, Ms. Lady :) So my final answer is...many, not all, but many women file for divorce as a act of over neglected, much needed self care.
Know thyself. Know...thy...worth!
Peace.
An article for the inquiring mind...
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2015/08/27/why-women-are-more-likely-to-initiate-divorce/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.3180cbec852c
